It’s like clockwork, every time there is a celebration of queer culture, the bisexual community must defend itself.
Like moving your way through a field of landmines, the platform X – formerly known as Twitter, is in constant attack against bisexuals.
One search and you will find numerous accounts spewing hateful biphobia and erasure, always rising when Pride Month or important dates arrive.
X isn’t a catchment of the entire queer community; however, it does give people a snapshot of what the community thinks of bisexuals.
A recent post got me thinking about how much queer history is simply not told or is intentionally forgotten.
Pride Month, for all the great that it produces each year, was the concept of a bisexual person in retaliation to the Stonewall riots.
Brenda Howard, known as the mother of Pride, was a bisexual advocate and creator of the first pride march. It’s why it’s so hard to understand why queer people attack the very community that made the month of June possible.
When I recently wrote about being bisexual and pride month, it’s for this reason I decided to publish the piece.
There is this belief that bisexual people haven’t, or do not contribute to the fight against discrimination. Which is simply not true.
But where did this come from? How did the opinion shift on the bisexual community who were so active on the frontlines?
The AIDS epidemic didn’t help, bisexual people were accused of spreading the virus across gay and straight communities. Furthermore, history shows in the US it took until 1993 for the bi+ community to really become part of the movement.
April 25 of that year would see bisexual activists fight for inclusion, which led to the Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation.
So how have we regressed so far in 2025?
Bisexual people still feel unaccepted in queer spaces, the percentage of bisexual people staying closeted is high, rates of depression and anxiety are disproportionate.
Information for the health disparities among bisexual people can be easily Googled, yet it doesn’t seem to break through the queer conscious.
I have been in those situations, showing up to pride and feeling like an imposter, whether I should even get out of the car.
More and more we are seeing bisexual events pop up, becoming a separate place from the entire LGBTIQ+ community. In a perfect world it shouldn’t be like this.
Podcasts and activists continue to push for inclusion, better representation and more acceptance from society.
However, before we reach that point, we need to start building from within.
Remember that each letter of the acronym is fighting for the same thing, equal rights across the world.
Working to bring down the 76 countries where same-sex activities between adults is illegal, and 10 are punishable by death.
Despite wording like gay or same-sex marriage, the entire community is together, because those terms include bisexual people.
The same bisexual people that were there during the Stonewall Inn riots, creating the first pride march and pushing for legislative change.
In an online world we need better discourse, for many queer people social media is their only escape, their only family.
When you get told that your sexuality isn’t valid, your queerness questioned, there is a snowball effect. Rolling down that mountain until it reaches the base of mental health hell, where the disparities start to become overwhelming.
The bisexual community is looking for acceptance, a place to be seen and loved, Pride Month and the LGBTIQ+ community should be that place.
So much energy is spent defending each other from the outside, we should be marching arm in arm like many before us.
Maybe it’s a perfect world that will never exist, bisexuals are tired, defending the right to just live in a community that should be theirs.
The clock doesn’t stop, but we can slow it down, take a second to breathe and look at ourselves as a community.
Orange in the pride flag symbolises healing, it’s time we start healing together.
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